Career coaches reveal common networking missteps that repel contacts

Career specialists say many job seekers damage their networking by sending impersonal, mass-produced messages and treating contacts solely as means to an end. Jasmine Escalera advises linking outreach to a real connection, such as a common interest, while Madeline Mann stresses showing the time you’ve invested in the request. Brandon Dock notes that in-person conversations still deliver the strongest results, a view echoed by Dorie Clark, who cautions against relying exclusively on social media.

Professional conduct— limiting alcohol, using a polished tone, and dressing for the industry— is deemed crucial, with Lisa Richey highlighting the confidence conveyed by a firm handshake. Finally, the coaches recommend nurturing contacts continuously, asking modest, well-targeted favors, and always following up with gratitude and evidence of how the advice was used.