I’m a Woman in My 20s and I’m Not Having the Sex I Want. I Know What’s Holding Me Back.

Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Jessica and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I, an early-20s woman, only recently became sexually active, but after that relationship ended and a short string of exceptionally disappointing hookups with another partner, I’ve been in a rut. I started having sex a bit later than average because of a complicated relationship with my own sexuality.