Sex Advice Column Offers Tips for Solo Pleasure, Asexual Dating and Open-Marriage Apps
A Slate advice column answered three readers’ questions, covering solo sexual toys, how to discuss asexuality with a partner, and navigating dating apps for non-monogamous hookups.
In response to a married man who has stopped having sex with his wife, the column recommended expanding his solo routine with products like realistic sleeves, stroker devices, pumps, rings and anal toys, and suggested browsing local or online retailers such as Babeland for expert help. An asexual woman seeking advice on dating a coworker was urged to be truthful about her orientation, wait for a natural conversation, and use resources like Angela Chen’s Ace and Cody Daigle-Orians’ I Am Ace to frame the discussion.
A mid-fifties man curious about open-marriage hookups received guidance on using apps like Tinder and Feeld, how to state his interest in casual fun, and a nuanced take on age-gap concerns, emphasizing consent and self-awareness. Across all three letters, the column stressed honesty, consent and treating sexual exploration as enjoyable rather than obligatory.
Why it matters
The advice helps readers navigate personal sexuality choices with honesty and safety.
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